Sarah is 32 and lives in Berkshire with her husband Rich. They have been married for 15 months and been together for five years. This is their first attempt at children.
Insanity Or Have I Finally Grown Up?
OK, I have finally reached insanity status….. Today was the last day of taking my pill with the hopes of getting pregnant! Initially I feel great elation at the thought of being on the long journey to having a baby and then suddenly madness sets in. The sane logic of a career minded, married thirty-two year seems to be lost on all the stuff I would be missing out on if I embark on this journey.
No more red wine, no boozy sessions down the pub on a Friday night, no eating all the rich and interesting foods such as brie, pate and pink steaks!!!! I suddenly realise that if I have ever wanted to learn to sky dive, abseil or bungee jump these would all have to wait until after a baby, I suddenly feel that my comfortable world is falling in…..and then the positive side steps in.
So, on a brighter note no more time will be spent on taking the pill. As a woman most of my adult life has been spent trying not to get pregnant and all of a sudden I can buy a pregnancy test without feeling embarrassed or guilty. On another plus point once I have achieved pregnancy status, no more periods for 9 months and once the bump appears hopefully people will offer me a seat when they are all taken on the train (maybe forget that one!)
So now I and my husband have decided to take the plunge what next
The Drive And Desire For A Child
Today I have put the fear of god into my husband Rich with the offer of sex for two weeks solid. At this point I can hear most woman saying are you mad, and most men saying lucky sod but I do have an ulterior motive, pregnancy!!
Rich and I had agreed we did not want to be the type of couple that had sex according to it being the right time, temperature being right and ovulation being at its optimum, but all of a sudden these ideas have flown right out of the window, I want a baby!
Preparation, Preparation, Preparation.
As every woman knows the first step towards pregnancy is preparation. But my joy of stopping the pill seems to have been replaced with the daily ritual of folic acid and vitamins, if someone shook me I am sure I would rattle. Today was spent with a trip to the doctor’s surgery for a blood test to check that I have immunity to rubella as the doctor has informed me that this is a wise move towards getting pregnant.
Well I now had the all clear, I passed the first test on the journey to pregnancy with flying colours, my doctor has informed me that I have a good immunity for rubella, so now the action can commence.
Fatal Error
Today I made the fatal error of letting my mother know that we are planning to have a baby. Like all mothers, my mother has been talking about becoming a grandmother since I was about nineteen so thirteen years later she had almost given up. A word of warning to all women who are thinking of letting their mothers know their pregnancy plans, DON’T!
My mother has now becoming an integral part of our lovemaking, no we haven’t taken to the odd ritual of three in a bed, but she wants to know every time we make love just in case this is the time for her to become a grandma. Who said this baby making lark was meant to be easy!!
First Time For Everyone !!!
As I have stated before I have spent most of my adult life trying not to get pregnant and now we are trying. We recently had a hilarious moment trying to figure out what to do once the love making had finished to ensure pregnancy was achieved. The question from Rich as to whether I needed to lie with my feet in the air had me rolling about in stitches. Personally I felt that I would look bloody silly with my feet in the air and didn’t feel that at this stage in trying to get pregnant it was necessary. So like any decent female I decided the best option was to sleep on it.
Disappointment
Well after a month of trying I have had my first disappointment. This disappointment arrived in the form of my period. On one hand I think this is a good thing to give my body a chance to recover after being on the pill, but on the other hand I am wondering what we did wrong. Maybe Rich was right after all, maybe I do need to lie with my feet in the air !!!
The Joy Of Children
Today Rich and I have experienced the joy of small babies. A friend brought her little girl round. She has all of the redeeming qualities of babies around 7 months old; the sweet smell of baby talc, the cute smiles and the new skills of waving. Unfortunately no-one told us that babies have learnt the fantastic trick of projectile vomiting. I’m not just talking the small amounts of milky sick that comes up after feeding, I’m talking lumpy, orange sick resembling the lunch they have just eaten. Oh the joy of having kids, something else to look forward to !!!!!
Alcohol & Trying To Conceive
Obviously all the baby books tell you to cut down on the alcohol whilst trying for a baby, I think in some cases it has been the only reason people have got pregnant. With Christmas and New Year looming I have done a pregnancy test not to see if I am pregnant but to see if I can drink over the festive season……… which I have passed with flying colours, apparently I am not pregnant so let the drinking and partying begin.
New Year’s Eve
This year Rich and I are off to a fancy dress party. I will be dressed as a cowboy and my loving husband will be dressed as a lady( that is Emily Howard to you and me from the series Little Britain). I am hoping not to get pregnant on New Years Eve as it may make an interesting story for us to tell our child on how they were conceive. “ Mummy was dressed as a man and Daddy was dressed as a lady.
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